TRAP 7: “KITCHEN SINK-ING”
YOU: “I have TOO MUCH to say! I can’t seem to fit everything I want to say in the time I have. People need to understand the entire picture of who I am, to really get me. Help!”
ME: “If you want me to give you a two-hour presentation, I am ready today. If you want only a five-minute speech, it will take me two weeks.” -Mark Twain
It takes more work and time to prepare and hone a short piece than a long one. Shorter is better. And harder. The fewer words we speak, the more value each one has. And if you want to be funny, “Brevity is the soul of wit.”
While some folks have a hard time opening up, others notice there can be a tendency to really just want to share every little detail and every vital aspect of your life. To leave nothing out. To leave no stone unturned. To share what you ate for breakfast and then the snack you had at 11 and the texture of the sandwich bread at lunch. The capacity for being really specific and detailed is so important to help us find our way into your story. But it’s also important to know when we’re overwhelming the audience with information and take a look at some reasons why:
- You haven’t got a clear concept of what the story is about yet. When you know, you can throw out (for now) everything that doesn’t relate to that exact theme.
- You are opening up for the first time and you’re finally being seen and heard and it feels amazing. You can’t get enough of this delicious attention. Try spending more time with friends who enjoy you and where you can give and receive attention with each other. Then, when you get on stage, you can focus more on sharing from a place of being of service to others.
- You’re afraid people will judge you for your faults, and you want to “balance it out” by sharing positive things about yourself or context about why you made the choices you made. This leads to the next trap…