62220_10151316457586064_1790687203_nI was not the class clown. I was not the kid who made all the other kids laugh. But sometimes I would make my teachers laugh. 

Even after ten years of doing standup comedy, I still had tons of insecurity about "being funny enough."

A few things finally helped with that:

  1. The first and most important thing is to just really notice what you find funny and then try to let people know about it. Remember that you are not your jokes. They come from you, sort of, but in reality they actually come from The Well. The Source. They come when you let yourself have a true experience of life and notice how you think and feel about it and then share it with other people.
  2. Next, find friends who laugh at your jokes, and at you just being you without even trying to be funny. Of course you don't want friends who kowtow to you and blow smoke up your ass. You just want people who truly appreciate what you have to offer. Be careful of chicken-and-egg syndrome with friends. Make sure you are actively enquiring as to what you truly find funny so you're not just with people who find you funny because you're copying their sense of humor. Complicated, I know, but important.
  3. Finally, you gotta start figuring how who "your people" are. It's one step beyond the friends you hang out with. It's your "tribe." These are the people who are going to find what you do most funny. Are they comedy club goers? Are they music lovers? Are they tech geeks? Are they professors? Are they woo-woo types? Rednecks? We laugh at what we recognize, so start figuring out who is going to recognize you, and then you'll know who you can make laugh.

-Alicia